Begin challenging your own assumptions. Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in awhile, or the light won’t come in. ~Alan Alda
I took a swig of milk, turned up my nose, declared it to be a lost cause, then put it back in refrigerator. My husband came by later and declared as a full grown adult I should be able to pour out the old milk and not continue to store it in the fridge for kitchen fairy to take care of.
But, I don’t remember putting it back. It is habit developed from long years of practice and dedication of eating cereal. Put the milk back in the fridge. That is the power of the subconscious mind, habits run our life.
The subconscious mind takes care of the body’s big problems, it controls most everything. Habits are part of that as a way to cope with life, so much input, habit controls our responses and actions. It is our default setting.
This is a good thing unless your very protective brain is always trying to protect by keeping you from being open with others and risk being hurt. Your default setting can keep repeating self-destructive or self-handicapping behavior that always keeps you from succeeding and keeps you stuck. Or a protective controlling brain will stop you from pursuing opportunity because it looks a lot like risk.
These are habits your super computer brain develops to run your life. Unless interrupted your protective brain will run the entire show. Beginning to end.
We must constantly raise our hand and interrupt our dictator, super-computer, pre-programmed brain. Challenge your thinking, challenge your habits.
In riding, its called riding on auto-pilot. When your horse gets going on a course and the jumps are coming, the auto-pilot can take over. When this happens, old habits take over, and you lose the ability to truly ride to your full potential. Often the poor results are immediate and sometimes painful.
Challenge your habits. Decide if you want to develop new ones.
There are certain habits that, once broken or adopted, tend to produce a landslide of other positive changes. These are known as “keystone habits.” They reveal that successful change doesn’t depend on getting every single thing right, but instead relies on identifying a few key priorities and fashioning them into powerful levers.
Studies from the past decade examining the impact of fitness on people’s daily routines have found that when people start exercising even as infrequently as once a week, they start changing other unrelated patterns in their lives, often unknowingly.
Typically, people who exercise start eating better and become more productive at work. They smoke less and show more patience with colleagues and family. They use their credit cards less frequently and feel less stressed. It’s not completely clear why. But for many people, taking time for fitness is a keystone habit that triggers widespread change.
“Exercise spills over,” says James Prochaska, a University of Rhode Island researcher. “There’s something about it that makes other good habits easier.”
Here are some other keystone habits:
Eating family meals. Studies have documented that families that habitually eat dinner together seem to raise children with better homework skills, higher grades, greater emotional control and more confidence.
Making your bed each morning. This behavior is correlated with better productivity, a greater sense of well-being and greater facility with following
Keeping a food journal. A 2009 study funded by the National Institutes of Health assembled a group of 1,600 obese people and asked them to write down everything they ate at least one day per week. This one habit — food journaling — created a structure that helped other good habits flourish by allowing subjects to identify their patterns and set up plans for healthy alternatives. Six months into the study, the people who kept daily food records had lost twice as much weight as everyone else.
Make a habit of saving. Make a habit of exercising. Make a habit of saying a prayer of gratitude every morning. Make a habit of smiling. Soon this will become your auto-pilot.
What does your default setting look like?