Category archives: Change starts in your head

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What does it REALLY take to qualify for your new home?

It is not just about your credit score, YOU are the single biggest factor in determining if you will qualify or not.

Watch out! Your Auto-Pilot is Driving!

Begin challenging your own assumptions. Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in awhile, or the light won’t come in. ~Alan Alda

I took a swig of milk, turned up my nose, declared it to be a lost cause, then put it back in refrigerator. My husband came by later and declared as a full grown adult I should be able to pour out the old milk and not continue to store it in the fridge for kitchen fairy to take care of.
But, I don’t remember putting it back. It is habit developed from long years of practice and dedication of eating cereal. Put the milk back in the fridge. That is the power of the subconscious mind, habits run our life.

The subconscious mind takes care of the body’s big problems, it controls most everything. Habits are part of that as a way to cope with life, so much input, habit controls our responses and actions. It is our default setting.


This is a good thing unless your very protective brain is always trying to protect by keeping you from being open with others and risk being hurt. Your default setting can keep repeating self-destructive or self-handicapping behavior that always keeps you from succeeding and keeps you stuck. Or a protective controlling brain will stop you from pursuing opportunity because it looks a lot like risk.
These are habits your super computer brain develops to run your life. Unless interrupted your protective brain will run the entire show. Beginning to end.

We must constantly raise our hand and interrupt our dictator, super-computer, pre-programmed brain. Challenge your thinking, challenge your habits.


In riding, its called riding on auto-pilot. When your horse gets going on a course and the jumps are coming, the auto-pilot can take over. When this happens, old habits take over, and you lose the ability to truly ride to your full potential. Often the poor results are immediate and sometimes painful.


Challenge your habits. Decide if you want to develop new ones.

There are certain habits that, once broken or adopted, tend to produce a landslide of other positive changes. These are known as “keystone habits.” They reveal that successful change doesn’t depend on getting every single thing right, but instead relies on identifying a few key priorities and fashioning them into powerful levers.

Studies from the past decade examining the impact of fitness on people’s daily routines have found that when people start exercising even as infrequently as once a week, they start changing other unrelated patterns in their lives, often unknowingly.

Typically, people who exercise start eating better and become more productive at work. They smoke less and show more patience with colleagues and family. They use their credit cards less frequently and feel less stressed. It’s not completely clear why. But for many people, taking time for fitness is a keystone habit that triggers widespread change.

“Exercise spills over,” says James Prochaska, a University of Rhode Island researcher. “There’s something about it that makes other good habits easier.”

Here are some other keystone habits:

Eating family meals. Studies have documented that families that habitually eat dinner together seem to raise children with better homework skills, higher grades, greater emotional control and more confidence.

Making your bed each morning. This behavior is correlated with better productivity, a greater sense of well-being and greater facility with following
a budget.

Keeping a food journal. A 2009 study funded by the National Institutes of Health assembled a group of 1,600 obese people and asked them to write down everything they ate at least one day per week. This one habit — food journaling — created a structure that helped other good habits flourish by allowing subjects to identify their patterns and set up plans for healthy alternatives. Six months into the study, the people who kept daily food records had lost twice as much weight as everyone else.
Make a habit of saving. Make a habit of exercising. Make a habit of saying a prayer of gratitude every morning. Make a habit of smiling. Soon this will become your auto-pilot.
What does your default setting look like?

Look in the mirror and say:

This video has been seen by 14,525,535 people.  Obviously it touches a place in all of us.  If you have seen it,  watch it again.  What we tell ourselves is so powerful that it shapes our personality and our life.

Some of us were raised by loving but cautious parents, therefor the world is dangerous and you can be easily intimidated by risks.  Some of us were raised by emotionally conservative parents that  held back loving words and hugs.  This keeps you doubting that anyone loves you and it can be hard to show love to others.  And we can all guess what happens when growing up in a house full of anger or hostility…

Some of the lucky ones were raised by loving and kind parents, they are the ones that help the rest of us out! 😉

Now  imagine that you are the child in this video.  Look in the mirror, how do you want to raise that child?   What do you want him or her to know?

Say it over and over, only then can you start to believe it.

Watch the video as many times as it takes.

Watch it until you can take on some of the beliefs about yourself that will help you grow, love, expand,  and succeed.


every Wednesday Noon Central, 1 pm est, 10 am pst

(209)  647- 1600 code 440491



Get “The Answer”

Ready for The Answer?

Today’s Clean Slate Hump Day Coaching Call has it.

What does “success” mean to you? Is it building the business of your dreams? Creating opportunities in your life? Financial independence? Loving and uplifting relationships?

Super charged team of John Assaraf and Murry Smith, both multimillionaires and international business consultants teamed up to write an amazing book called ‘The Answer”. It is packed with both very weird and very practical how-to advice for creating an extraordinary life and successful business. It details the exact process they go thru daily for “empire building”.

Today’s Hump Day coaching call will begin with insightful advice about credit and qualifying for a home, live Q and A, so sign on early if you want to talk about it, then we will launch into the ideas put forth and lived by the authors.

NOON CENTRAL , 1 pm Eastern, 10 am Pacific
1 209 647 1600 code 440491

Recorded coaching call  6/11/2014

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Secrets of the Millionaire Mind

The Rich think differently. Before you can become rich you have to change the way you think.

I will be coaching about the mindset needed to create financial freedom on the Wednesday


“Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, Mastering the Inner Game of Wealth” by T. Harv  Eker

Noon Central , 10 am PST, and 1 pm EST. Each WEdnesday
1 (209) 647-1600 code 440491

Join us for a quick 20 to 30 minutes for more about how to adopt the habits and mindsets of the rich and apply them in your life.

It may not be your skills (or lack of) that are holding you back, but your thinking.

Your amazing brain controls your life.  Deeply rooted programming influences your emotions, habits, thoughts, and actions. It steers your life.

Last week’s Coaching Call was about your Financial Blueprint.  Everything you learned about money you learned from your parents.

Was it scarce?  Hard to come by?  Source of conflict?  Source of control?

Your ideas about money are formed by your childhood and very difficult to overcome. If they are not serving you well in your adult life, choose to examine your mindset about money and begin to re-write your programming.

Thoughts lead to feelings,

Feelings lead to actions,

Actions lead to results.

“As a man thinketh, so is he…”
I hope you join us for this Series of HUMPDAY COACHING CALLS each Wednesday at Noon CENTRAL.

Listen to the first part of the series here:

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